Thanks for the comments on yesterdays post. I appreciate the support as we muddle through this time. DH didn't get a chance to try and talk to DS yesterday. Hopefully DH will be feeling better this afternoon and get to "grill" him. I'm still taking suggestions if anyone has a magic wand or trick I can try. I did make him walk to the bus stop this morning. That's the only reason I have time to post before I leave for work.
Today is the orientation for my new job. I'll finally find out all the benefit information. WAHOO!!!
Today is mine & DH's 2 month anniversary. AWWWWWWWWW. I found a sweet note taped to the bathroom mirror this morning when I woke up. My DH loves me!!
I'm going to go wake him before I leave so he has time to get ready for a doctors appointment. He'll be within two blocks of my work but I know he won't feel up to stopping by. Maybe one day he can come see my office. I know all the ladies would love to meet him. They feel like they already know him since I have at least 5 pictures on my desk not to mention my wedding party screen saver.
Hope you all had a great Monday. Cami, I didn't see 24 yet. HERO's was another good one. The previews for the final two shows of the season look fabulous. Tuesday means AI, HOUSE and some other stuff. WAHOO!!
Til later....................
Tuesday, May 8, 2007
Monday, May 7, 2007
How to make a boy make a friend
I am seriously, yes-seriously, at the end of my rope. Those that know me will say-it's a short rope. Be that as it may, I'm dangling off the tip of my rope and I need some advise.
I'm sure I've mentioned before, my DS's lack of social skills. His dad left when he was two years old and we've had a "rocky" agreement of how the boy is be raised since then. I also feel partly responsible since I placed him in a situation at an early age where we lived with psychopaths. I have tried very hard to over come that and help him become a "whole" person.
He has a very hard time making friends. He gets in trouble at school for talking when he shouldn't and has a very bad habit of correcting people instead of letting the teacher do their job. We've talked about this a zillion times, to no avail. He's better for awhile and then he gets in trouble again. He also is very hard on himself and expects nothing less than perfection in his school work. To that end, he will refuse to do assignments or not finish because he would rather get a failing grade than do less than what he feels he should do.
I've probably also told you about the new kid at the bus stop. Sweet looking kid. New to the neighborhood and to the school. I figure it must be hard on the kid coming into a school this late in the school year. He turned out to be in several of DS's classes. PERFECT says I. Perfect chance for DS to make a new friend. They have the "New kid" label in common. He stands at the bus stop with the same lost puppy look my son has. He plays an instrument. Figured that will give him additional geek points with the middle schoolers. He is prime target for a friend.
DS will not talk to him at the bus stop. He says he talks to him in their classes but how much "talking" can they do without getting in trouble? They can't sit together and talk on the bus because they apparently have assigned seats. We get to the bus stop at least 10-15 minutes early. Plenty of time to talk to someone. Get to know them. MAKE A BLASTED FRIEND!!!
This morning, for at least the millionth time, I asked DS why he will not get out of the car and talk to the boy. I asked him to give the kid a business card for the kid to give to his mom, for my business. He saw that it had our phone number on it and FREAKED out. He refused to give it to him, because THE KID might call our house. I tried to get DS to explain to me what he was so afraid of. He said, He's only one person. I asked him what that means. He can't tell me. He "Doesn't know". I not so calmly explained to him that he needed to stop using phrases that he "Didn't know what they meant". He still couldn't tell me what he thinks will happen if he talks to this kid. I know he is afraid but I can't get him to admit it and try and work through it. From looking at the other kid, I'm fairly sure he is just as scared as DS is. !!!!!!!!!
I'm going to ask DH to give it a try this afternoon. He seems to be able to get him to open up when I can't. Maybe he can get him to see there is no fear in saying hello and asking a few "friendly" questions. When ever I suggest an "ice breaker" my DS says that is prying. I can't get him to understand it is a normal way of starting a conversation. It could lead to a new friend.
I've already decided that starting tomorrow, I'm not going to take him to the bus stop any more.
Maybe if I make him walk there and I'm not hanging out with him, he'll talk to the kid. If not, at least I won't have to sit there watching the kid look so sad and DS looking so scared. Now that the sun comes up earlier, he won't be in the dark. He doesn't need me to watch out for dangers in the darkness.
Yes, I'm going to throw the little bird out of the nest.
Fly or fall.
I don't know what else to do.
Suggestions??
Til later........................
I'm sure I've mentioned before, my DS's lack of social skills. His dad left when he was two years old and we've had a "rocky" agreement of how the boy is be raised since then. I also feel partly responsible since I placed him in a situation at an early age where we lived with psychopaths. I have tried very hard to over come that and help him become a "whole" person.
He has a very hard time making friends. He gets in trouble at school for talking when he shouldn't and has a very bad habit of correcting people instead of letting the teacher do their job. We've talked about this a zillion times, to no avail. He's better for awhile and then he gets in trouble again. He also is very hard on himself and expects nothing less than perfection in his school work. To that end, he will refuse to do assignments or not finish because he would rather get a failing grade than do less than what he feels he should do.
I've probably also told you about the new kid at the bus stop. Sweet looking kid. New to the neighborhood and to the school. I figure it must be hard on the kid coming into a school this late in the school year. He turned out to be in several of DS's classes. PERFECT says I. Perfect chance for DS to make a new friend. They have the "New kid" label in common. He stands at the bus stop with the same lost puppy look my son has. He plays an instrument. Figured that will give him additional geek points with the middle schoolers. He is prime target for a friend.
DS will not talk to him at the bus stop. He says he talks to him in their classes but how much "talking" can they do without getting in trouble? They can't sit together and talk on the bus because they apparently have assigned seats. We get to the bus stop at least 10-15 minutes early. Plenty of time to talk to someone. Get to know them. MAKE A BLASTED FRIEND!!!
This morning, for at least the millionth time, I asked DS why he will not get out of the car and talk to the boy. I asked him to give the kid a business card for the kid to give to his mom, for my business. He saw that it had our phone number on it and FREAKED out. He refused to give it to him, because THE KID might call our house. I tried to get DS to explain to me what he was so afraid of. He said, He's only one person. I asked him what that means. He can't tell me. He "Doesn't know". I not so calmly explained to him that he needed to stop using phrases that he "Didn't know what they meant". He still couldn't tell me what he thinks will happen if he talks to this kid. I know he is afraid but I can't get him to admit it and try and work through it. From looking at the other kid, I'm fairly sure he is just as scared as DS is. !!!!!!!!!
I'm going to ask DH to give it a try this afternoon. He seems to be able to get him to open up when I can't. Maybe he can get him to see there is no fear in saying hello and asking a few "friendly" questions. When ever I suggest an "ice breaker" my DS says that is prying. I can't get him to understand it is a normal way of starting a conversation. It could lead to a new friend.
I've already decided that starting tomorrow, I'm not going to take him to the bus stop any more.
Maybe if I make him walk there and I'm not hanging out with him, he'll talk to the kid. If not, at least I won't have to sit there watching the kid look so sad and DS looking so scared. Now that the sun comes up earlier, he won't be in the dark. He doesn't need me to watch out for dangers in the darkness.
Yes, I'm going to throw the little bird out of the nest.
Fly or fall.
I don't know what else to do.
Suggestions??
Til later........................
Sunday, May 6, 2007
Crop Day
I have been awake for about 30 minutes and it's right now 7am. ARG. Da** sinus headaches. Guess we are in for some bad weather today if my head is any indication. I've taken some medicine and decided to check email waiting for it to work. I'm going to hop in the shower (sorry for visual) and get ready to go to the crop. I packed the car last night so all I have to do is get dressed and out the door.
I scrapped all day yesterday ..in between watching QVC. I was good. Fairly good. I only bought three things. None of which I HAD to have. One is on back order. Another one was supposed to have "Autoship" which meant I'd get two more shipments with the different seasons colors. Couldn't find the autoship on line. Contacted on line Chat. Spent 30 minutes trying to get info on how to order it via Auto ship instead of the individual. Can't get the special pricing unless I do the auto ship. Rep finally finds the autoship item number. It won't work. Not available. I tell her and she says, "Oh, then I guess it isn't available to order." UM...why then, I ask, was there a HUGE demo showing the THREE categories of the items and a long discussion about the auto ship & special pricing? HMMMM??!!!! I sent an email to QVC to inquire about their false advertising. We'll see what happens. I am still waiting for Martha Stewart to email me back about her products.
How rude.
Guess I'll get moving. I'm looking forward to spending the day with two of my favorite people. Can't wait to see who else is there & sneak a peek at what they are doing. I'm hoping to get a good part of our wedding album done today. Still didn't get my CARRY IT ALL but at least I have my pictures. And four Totes. Yikes. Wonder how crowded we'll be today? Hope it's a smaller crowd than usual and we have more room to spread out. I'll give you all a full report tomorrow.
Speaking of tomorrow, I got my letter of job offer in the mail yesterday. It advised me to bring proof of citizenship and legal ability to work "as shown on the attached paper". NO second piece of paper. I'm going to assume they want a copy of my SS card. I don't have my birth certificate as it's with my passport application. Still haven't gotten my passport. Since DH hasn't even applied for his, I guess we aren't leaving the country any time soon. Tuesday I have orientation for the new job and I'll find out all the IMPORTANT stuff. Can't wait.
Sister is due back tomorrow from her cruise. Should be some interesting stories considering the history of the group she went with.
Till later...................
I scrapped all day yesterday ..in between watching QVC. I was good. Fairly good. I only bought three things. None of which I HAD to have. One is on back order. Another one was supposed to have "Autoship" which meant I'd get two more shipments with the different seasons colors. Couldn't find the autoship on line. Contacted on line Chat. Spent 30 minutes trying to get info on how to order it via Auto ship instead of the individual. Can't get the special pricing unless I do the auto ship. Rep finally finds the autoship item number. It won't work. Not available. I tell her and she says, "Oh, then I guess it isn't available to order." UM...why then, I ask, was there a HUGE demo showing the THREE categories of the items and a long discussion about the auto ship & special pricing? HMMMM??!!!! I sent an email to QVC to inquire about their false advertising. We'll see what happens. I am still waiting for Martha Stewart to email me back about her products.
How rude.
Guess I'll get moving. I'm looking forward to spending the day with two of my favorite people. Can't wait to see who else is there & sneak a peek at what they are doing. I'm hoping to get a good part of our wedding album done today. Still didn't get my CARRY IT ALL but at least I have my pictures. And four Totes. Yikes. Wonder how crowded we'll be today? Hope it's a smaller crowd than usual and we have more room to spread out. I'll give you all a full report tomorrow.
Speaking of tomorrow, I got my letter of job offer in the mail yesterday. It advised me to bring proof of citizenship and legal ability to work "as shown on the attached paper". NO second piece of paper. I'm going to assume they want a copy of my SS card. I don't have my birth certificate as it's with my passport application. Still haven't gotten my passport. Since DH hasn't even applied for his, I guess we aren't leaving the country any time soon. Tuesday I have orientation for the new job and I'll find out all the IMPORTANT stuff. Can't wait.
Sister is due back tomorrow from her cruise. Should be some interesting stories considering the history of the group she went with.
Till later...................
Saturday, May 5, 2007
National Scrapbooking Day
What does that mean to you? An excuse to shop (like we need an excuse). Crop? Scrapping at home? Just another day?
I'm still trying to decide what I'll do today. I need to clean out the garage. Still. I need to get ready for tomorrow. Still. I want to catch up on all the TV I've missed this week. I have over 50 episodes of the DIY scrapbook show on my DVR. YIKES.
I'll try & post some things that I get done today. If I get anything done today. I should get something done tomorrow unless my co-scrappers distract me with their talking & laughing.
While cruising the CK website/message board this morning I ran across a Ebay item that I had to share. Check this out. Any takers?? WOW.
Finally saw the CSI & ER episodes. WOW & WOW/Awwwwwww. CSI is so good. I'm glad to see the relationship with Grissom & Sarah being shown more but what was up with the "miniature" Gill was working on? I'm hoping it was just so he could get into the mind of the killer. Surely HE isn't the killer. The show will end if he is. I refuse to watch any longer. I mean it CBS. Don't you even think about screwing with my show! Er wedding was so sweet. I started getting a bad feeling about half way through the show. I was SCREAMING at Ray when he left the bar to get out of the street. POOP!
Time to check out the other bloggers. Special shout out to my SIL. HI "L"!!!!! She emailed me to wish me a Happy NSD from my MIL. My MIL doesn't own a computer so she had my SIL send me the best wishes. So sweet.
QVC is coming on so gotta run!
OH..almost forgot. I got my pictures yesterday. YEAH. Now if the Carry it all would come I'd be happy. Guess I'll pack like it's not coming.
Til later......................
I'm still trying to decide what I'll do today. I need to clean out the garage. Still. I need to get ready for tomorrow. Still. I want to catch up on all the TV I've missed this week. I have over 50 episodes of the DIY scrapbook show on my DVR. YIKES.
I'll try & post some things that I get done today. If I get anything done today. I should get something done tomorrow unless my co-scrappers distract me with their talking & laughing.
While cruising the CK website/message board this morning I ran across a Ebay item that I had to share. Check this out. Any takers?? WOW.
Finally saw the CSI & ER episodes. WOW & WOW/Awwwwwww. CSI is so good. I'm glad to see the relationship with Grissom & Sarah being shown more but what was up with the "miniature" Gill was working on? I'm hoping it was just so he could get into the mind of the killer. Surely HE isn't the killer. The show will end if he is. I refuse to watch any longer. I mean it CBS. Don't you even think about screwing with my show! Er wedding was so sweet. I started getting a bad feeling about half way through the show. I was SCREAMING at Ray when he left the bar to get out of the street. POOP!
Time to check out the other bloggers. Special shout out to my SIL. HI "L"!!!!! She emailed me to wish me a Happy NSD from my MIL. My MIL doesn't own a computer so she had my SIL send me the best wishes. So sweet.
QVC is coming on so gotta run!
OH..almost forgot. I got my pictures yesterday. YEAH. Now if the Carry it all would come I'd be happy. Guess I'll pack like it's not coming.
Til later......................
Friday, May 4, 2007
Greys spins a good one
This is usually the kiss of death for a new show..ie: Studio 60..but I will say it anyway,
We enjoyed the Greys "spin off" they gave us a sneak peek at last night. The cast is a good one and I liked seeing Addison with more personality than she has been allowed on Greys. I actually almost enjoyed the times they showed her last night more than I did the "regulars". Speaking of the "regular show" I was not happy with them killing off Mer's step mom. I told DH that if I ever get the hic-ups and can't stop, DO NOT take me to the hospital.
Since Greys was two hours, we didn't see CSI or ER. DON'T tell me anything. Hopefully we can catch up on those tonight or tomorrow.
National Scrapbooking weekend is here. Like we need an excuse. I should clean out the garage but I may blow that off & scrap. I need to get packed for Sunday. I haven't gotten my pictures or my Carry it all. I sure hope UPS &/or USPS is good to me today or tomorrow. Better have a plan B just in case. If all else fails, I can go get a new ink cartridge and see if that helps my B & W problem. After all- that's what the tech told me. !!!!
If you are celebrating the Mexican "holiday" this weekend, please be careful. If you are looking for a restaurant in the USF area..check out TIA's. It has reopened and my DD is working there. She could use the Tips!
Looks like I will be moving into my new cubbie on Monday and going to HR early next week. YEAH!!! My current team mates have already drawn straws over my current space and have been making their decorating plans all week. It is a prime spot as it is right next to the nicest person on the planet. I'm going to miss my Penny but at least we won't be far away from each other. I'm only moving to the next row.
My sister should be far out in the water by now as she left on her cruise yesterday. I hope they have nice weather and she has a good time. She finally got the job situation straightened out so she could relax and have fun.
I'm going to go pay my mortgage before I get in trouble and then get to work. Have a great weekend. CARI & CAMI...see ya Sunday. Someone needs to tell me where we are going???
Til later................
We enjoyed the Greys "spin off" they gave us a sneak peek at last night. The cast is a good one and I liked seeing Addison with more personality than she has been allowed on Greys. I actually almost enjoyed the times they showed her last night more than I did the "regulars". Speaking of the "regular show" I was not happy with them killing off Mer's step mom. I told DH that if I ever get the hic-ups and can't stop, DO NOT take me to the hospital.
Since Greys was two hours, we didn't see CSI or ER. DON'T tell me anything. Hopefully we can catch up on those tonight or tomorrow.
National Scrapbooking weekend is here. Like we need an excuse. I should clean out the garage but I may blow that off & scrap. I need to get packed for Sunday. I haven't gotten my pictures or my Carry it all. I sure hope UPS &/or USPS is good to me today or tomorrow. Better have a plan B just in case. If all else fails, I can go get a new ink cartridge and see if that helps my B & W problem. After all- that's what the tech told me. !!!!
If you are celebrating the Mexican "holiday" this weekend, please be careful. If you are looking for a restaurant in the USF area..check out TIA's. It has reopened and my DD is working there. She could use the Tips!
Looks like I will be moving into my new cubbie on Monday and going to HR early next week. YEAH!!! My current team mates have already drawn straws over my current space and have been making their decorating plans all week. It is a prime spot as it is right next to the nicest person on the planet. I'm going to miss my Penny but at least we won't be far away from each other. I'm only moving to the next row.
My sister should be far out in the water by now as she left on her cruise yesterday. I hope they have nice weather and she has a good time. She finally got the job situation straightened out so she could relax and have fun.
I'm going to go pay my mortgage before I get in trouble and then get to work. Have a great weekend. CARI & CAMI...see ya Sunday. Someone needs to tell me where we are going???
Til later................
Thursday, May 3, 2007
The Beat goes on
I had that title all set for today and then I read my buddy Cami's comment from yesterday. Sorry Cami, I have to disagree on this one but I still LOVE YA!
I thought it was a little cruel to leave Chris hanging for almost 15 minutes. As soon as they let Jordin sit down and left Blake & Chris standing..did anyone doubt the out come?
Now that it is down to the final four it is going to get tough. Lakisha is the only one, in my opinion, that is still expendible. Should be an interesting next few shows.
LOST....WTF??? Are they dead or not?? How did Lockes dad get there? What are they going to show him next week? If they are already dead, how have people been killed since they arrived? OMG!!!! Wild show.
So tonight we have, Greys-(Secret spin off show), CSI-Vegas, and the WEDDING on ER. Good stuff!
Til later.............
I thought it was a little cruel to leave Chris hanging for almost 15 minutes. As soon as they let Jordin sit down and left Blake & Chris standing..did anyone doubt the out come?
Now that it is down to the final four it is going to get tough. Lakisha is the only one, in my opinion, that is still expendible. Should be an interesting next few shows.
LOST....WTF??? Are they dead or not?? How did Lockes dad get there? What are they going to show him next week? If they are already dead, how have people been killed since they arrived? OMG!!!! Wild show.
So tonight we have, Greys-(Secret spin off show), CSI-Vegas, and the WEDDING on ER. Good stuff!
Til later.............
Wednesday, May 2, 2007
Straight to the Heart
In case you aren't watching American Idol..that was a direct AI reference via a "New Christine" reference. She was singing a song in the car and didn't know very many of the words..kinda like the commercial with the two guys who butcher a song. (Man, that made sense didn't it?? LOL! I tried posting earlier in the day and thats what you get...total mind mush)
Say what you will. I am going on the record. I LOVE BLAKE! My DH and I really enjoyed his performance last night. As Simon said, you either would love it or hate it. We LOVED it. He is so adorable.
I was very impressed with Lakisha and Melinda. I wasn't sure how they would do Rock but they both were fabulous. It may have helped that I had never heard either song. I had no comparison to make and really liked both. Melinda looked like she couldn't believe what had just come out of her mouth. She seems to go to another place when she sings. Takes on a character and then the timid Melinda comes out when she is done.
Two people gone tonight. Who will it be? Tough. I think it will be Chris and maybe Phil. I know Simon didn't like Jordins performance but last weeks totals will help her on the off chance people didn't vote as strongly for her this time.
House...good show again unless you thought about the ending. Considering things they had told us, the transplant shouldn't have worked to save the older brother. I'm assuming a lot more time had passed than they let us believe. There would have to be alot of meds and treatments to save the brother. Still, love me Greg House!!
Finally saw the 24 from Monday. Good grief! Poor Jack, poor Audrey. I had forgotten William Devane was her dad on the show. He scares me!
Tonight is the AI results, Bones & LOST. Oh my!!
I didn't mention it the other day- but my DS called me at work MONDAY to say he had a project due TUESDAY. After questioning him he confessed he'd known about it for several weeks. Yes, he'd been lying every day when asked about homework/projects/etc. And yes, his restriction was extended...did I forget to tell you about the phone call from his teacher last Wed? Good grief. And for those keeping score, he still refuses to talk to the new kid at the bus stop. Does anyone know a good shrink in my area? Someone needs to learn some social skills soon or we will not have a great adult. ARG!!!
Did you check out those cool "retro" stamps or the Carry it all? I'm looking forward to getting my CIA. Speaking of new products, have you checked out my TLC website lately? They have a new catalog and TONS of great new stuff. Lots of BLING, Chipboard shapes, new papers. Cool stuff.
What's happening with you? Lots of quiet people on the sites lately. What is everyone doing for National Scrapbook Day this Saturday? TONS of stuff going on-on line if you can't make it to a crop. Cari, Cami & I are heading to the Scrapbook Shoppe Crop on Sunday. Sure hope the goodie bag is good...LOL. It's all about the products & Prizes!
Til later.......................
Say what you will. I am going on the record. I LOVE BLAKE! My DH and I really enjoyed his performance last night. As Simon said, you either would love it or hate it. We LOVED it. He is so adorable.
I was very impressed with Lakisha and Melinda. I wasn't sure how they would do Rock but they both were fabulous. It may have helped that I had never heard either song. I had no comparison to make and really liked both. Melinda looked like she couldn't believe what had just come out of her mouth. She seems to go to another place when she sings. Takes on a character and then the timid Melinda comes out when she is done.
Two people gone tonight. Who will it be? Tough. I think it will be Chris and maybe Phil. I know Simon didn't like Jordins performance but last weeks totals will help her on the off chance people didn't vote as strongly for her this time.
House...good show again unless you thought about the ending. Considering things they had told us, the transplant shouldn't have worked to save the older brother. I'm assuming a lot more time had passed than they let us believe. There would have to be alot of meds and treatments to save the brother. Still, love me Greg House!!
Finally saw the 24 from Monday. Good grief! Poor Jack, poor Audrey. I had forgotten William Devane was her dad on the show. He scares me!
Tonight is the AI results, Bones & LOST. Oh my!!
I didn't mention it the other day- but my DS called me at work MONDAY to say he had a project due TUESDAY. After questioning him he confessed he'd known about it for several weeks. Yes, he'd been lying every day when asked about homework/projects/etc. And yes, his restriction was extended...did I forget to tell you about the phone call from his teacher last Wed? Good grief. And for those keeping score, he still refuses to talk to the new kid at the bus stop. Does anyone know a good shrink in my area? Someone needs to learn some social skills soon or we will not have a great adult. ARG!!!
Did you check out those cool "retro" stamps or the Carry it all? I'm looking forward to getting my CIA. Speaking of new products, have you checked out my TLC website lately? They have a new catalog and TONS of great new stuff. Lots of BLING, Chipboard shapes, new papers. Cool stuff.
What's happening with you? Lots of quiet people on the sites lately. What is everyone doing for National Scrapbook Day this Saturday? TONS of stuff going on-on line if you can't make it to a crop. Cari, Cami & I are heading to the Scrapbook Shoppe Crop on Sunday. Sure hope the goodie bag is good...LOL. It's all about the products & Prizes!
Til later.......................
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